The female pairing strategy typically involves securing an exclusive mate who will provide for the woman’s offspring. The only potential source of squalls is when he starts going after your girl. From a male perspective, Steve the Stud has figured out the secret to a happy life. The man sleeping around case appears more clear cut: having sex with many women maximizes the chance of begetting offspring, so men are inclined to find the concept of having many sexual partners attractive. Spitballin’, but doesn’t this reflect the difference between male and female pairing strategies? But this is all anecdotal and I don’t have a good sense of why it should be. And men tend to feel a wistful admiration, if anything.
Women may express relatively mild disapproval of male promiscuity, but it won’t have the same venom unless the man’s sleeping around has hurt them or someone they know personally. The reverse situation should work the same way, one would think, but in my experience doesn’t. The reason for this should be obvious: men ultimately have no reason to feel threatened if a girl is sexually available, while women do.
Whereas if a circle of young women notice that Sarah’s a slut, they will be at it for fifteen minutes, critiquing her clothes, her behavior, her friends, and basically all the little things that add up to make Sarah such a worthless skank. They might make a couple of mean-spirited jokes at Sarah’s expense. If a bunch of young men are together, and one of them remarks that Sarah’s a slut, the others (provided none of them are dating or friends with Sarah) will likely react with amusement. Something that belatedly struck me concerning sexual purity taboos–I don’t recall anyone mentioning this, but it was a big thread so apologies if I missed it: in my experience, all else being equal, women tend to be more offended by other women’s violations of sexual norms than men are.
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